LOSS.

loss is painful.

the pain of losing someone u love is excruciating. it is the pain u will not be able to describe at all. the pain no one else can understand. the pain not a little bit at all relieved by people saying 'i am so sorry'. the pain so intense u cant even shed away a gram of it with tears. the pain that is so chronic that it will always be there; it may be away for some time, but it will always come back.

so, u cry, u grieve, u think u lose the world, for the one u lose was ever the most important thing in your whole entire world before. and suddenly, gone.

however, time helps. soon enough, u will realize your tears only reminds u more of your loss. u will decide u cant go on with life all the time with your dehydrated eyes, your hurt heart, your soulless body.

time may not wipe away the loss, but it helps to heal the cut into a scar. maybe the cut is deep, maybe it is so huge that it will take a while for the granulation tissues to be replaced by the firm tough scar tissues; but scar will form eventually. the limiting factor is just u; if u are always clinging on to the loss, maybe time is not a universal remedy. if u don let go, maybe the cut will just proceed into such a chronic stage, where the healing and inflammation fight each other. and if u continue to give in to your grief, infection may take place, and it may spread and gives u septicemia.

so, learn to accept. loss is painful, but it reminds u to treasure what u still have around u. it reminds u that life is short. it reminds u that what u do when the person is around is far more important than tearing after the person is gone.

so, learn to grow up. there are things beyond our control. there are things, horrible things we wish will never happen at all; but they just will. learn to realize that tears may be a temporary painkiller, but it has the risk of addiction. learn to increase your pain threshold instead of abusing your supply of painkillers.

u may cry. just remember to pick yourself up afterwards. i believe that this pain, no one can help u in any way unless u manage it yourself.

the scar may remind u of your loss. it will always be there. it just doesnt matter anymore. u healed. u have fought the fear of loss.

and the person u love will always be in a part of your heart. and the person will be happy too if he ever knows u are living well, happily for yourself, and for the people u love.